Dating a non committal man
After all, by closing the door on those who are mistreating us or abandoning us at their convenience, we make room for meaningful connections – that could lead to unexpected romances and even better friendships.
Recently, I went on a dinner date with a cis woman that ended a bit awkwardly.
Also, it’s rather cliché at this point that mainstream lesbian-oriented content tends to show more interest in trans men’s stories (who are, after all, not women) than ours ( being the most obvious example).
Look, I get that it takes some time to work some of these things out, but part of my point is just that making it clear you believe trans women should be included is a good step towards developing meaningful friendship with us.
After the point that she referred to me as a “trans woman” as opposed to a “woman woman,” I found it difficult to bring myself to even say much for the last few minutes of our little disaster date.As a further point, our inclusion in much of queer women’s culture is still nominal at best.As a nearby example, I’ve gotten some laughs out of some of the serial lesbian content on the sidebar here at Autostraddle, but I’m still waiting for a woman like me to show up on screen and join in the fun.Some of the conversation we shared was nice, we talked about film (fyi – an easy topic to hold my interest, ladies!), our common roots back in the States, and her background in performance art.